So what do you do. Well first, steer clear of negative people. Sometimes these people can be your nearest and dearest, but this is not the time to confide your doubts and fears to them. Seek out positive, enthusiastic people from your acquaintances, family or friends. Assume their positive and confident outlooks on life. Find and read good motivational books. Think success and go back and re-tackle the issues that are holding back your project. Often it is just a matter of tweaking aspects of the operation to get it moving. If you have done the research properly there has to be a reason that things are not going right. Persistence will pay dividends in the end. If you have the desire to succeed this will inevitably provide the driving force and energy required to get you to where you need to go. This is personal motivation in action. This is the energy and desire working together to achieve a positive result.

It is very easy to get down and depressed when things do not go your way. It is very easy to give in to fear and despair, but these attitudes only lead to less success. Talking with negative people increases depression and loss of motivation. In a sense we are what we think and we do need to motivate ourselves to achieve.

In a way it is harder to claim the positive because it requires energy but being negative saps energy, while being positive generates energy. Being positive generates motivation and enthusiastic motivation produces results. Nothing is a lost cause, it just requires thoughtful restructuring at worst or minor tweaking at best. You just need the motivation and enthusiasm to carry it through.

Life can be hard but look for the positives in everything, even the difficult situations. Have a joy for life, mix with positive, energetic people. Allow their enthusiasm and motivational attitudes to penetrate the shell of depression that is clogging your life. Develop goals and regain the motivation and drive in your life.

Focusing on the following areas will prepare you to be the main attraction.

Mental and Physical Preparation

Physical and mental preparation goes hand-in-hand. When you are nervous, your mind is usually racing, causing your words to jumble as they try to keep up with your thoughts. Physically slowing down your mind by relaxing your body helps eliminate this problem. Gather your thoughts through deep breathing and stretching to calm your nervousness. Mental imagery is a tool for a speaker to minimize or eliminate any negative thoughts or fears about speaking. Visualize that you are a dynamic and confident speaker who has valuable information to give.

Proper Attire

What is the first thing your audience will notice about you? Most likely it will be what you are wearing. Pay close attention to how your dress is representing you. Check with the event organizers to be sure that you won’t under or over dress. Do not wear anything that takes away from your presentation such as big jewelry, loud colors, or excessive makeup unless it is part of your presentation.

Body Language

1. Eye communication

The best way to use eye contact is to make eye contact! Do not overlook your audience when you are nervous. Find friendly faces and connect with the audience. This builds confidence in you as the audience senses your sincerity. You can use eye contact to seek feedback from your audience. Are they attentive and interested?

Too little eye contact is interpreted as being impolite and disinterested. Too much makes someone feel uncomfortable and victimized. Try to focus on connecting with your audience and eye contact will become comfortable.

2. Gestures

Gestures should be natural and represent what you are feeling and thinking at that moment. If you are excited, and grand gestures are natural for you, go for it! Your audience appreciates sincerity verses a rehearsed robotic gesture. Although different countries and cultures define gestures differently, there are general gestures which convey a certain message to the audience.

Negative or closed gestures:

- Hands on the hips can be perceived as judgmental and authoritative.
- Hands in pockets show that you are nervous or complacent.
- Hands clasped behind you (reverse fig leaf or regal position) infer that you are hiding something, may cause distrust. This may also show nervousness.
- Hands clasped in front (fig leaf) convey tension.
- Crossed-arms may portray you as defensive and unopened.

Positive or open gestures:

- “At ease stance” (feet about shoulder width apart with toes pointed forward).
- Gestures should be appropriate and flowing, not quickly and jerky.
- Vary your gestures so that you do not bore the audience.
- Palms open show that you are non-threatening.
- Appear natural by matching your words, thoughts, and feelings to your gesture.

3. Posture and Movement

- Proximity and orientation.
- The social norm in North America is about one-and-one-half feet to four feet between two people. Standing too close to someone can cause them to feel uncomfortable and infringed on. Standing too far can cause them to feel disconnected and disinterested.
- Stances/movement – a neutral stance is usually best. Feet slightly shoulder width apart and toes forward. Movement is dependent on your situation. Pacing is distracting however, showing a visual by moving back and forth may be warranted.
- Head nodding can be perceived positively showing your audience that you are interested in them. It can also be perceived negatively if you are shaking your head in a disapproving or demeaning manner.

4. Facial expressions

Be extremely aware of your facial expressions. Do your facial expressions convey a different meaning than what you are thinking or feeling? Or, are they conveying exactly what you are thinking or feeling (i.e. tiredness, boredom)? Always remember to smile at the audience. A good time to do this is when people are first coming into your session. Greet them with a smile. This helps relax you and helps the audience warm up to you before your formal presentation. It is easier to give a presentation in front of a relaxed and inviting crowd rather than a cold and judgmental one.

Remember, you may have the most dynamic presentation slide show with the latest technology, however, all that hard work will be discarded if you do not prepare yourself and the main visual. Make your next presentation a high-impact one with a lasting impression of YOU.

Happy Presenting!

Stress Too, Can Cause A Loss Of Memory

It has been found that people under a great deal of stress tend to lose their memory, and that once they get over their stressful conditions, their memory shows signs of improvement once more. Even medication can induce this lapse, or it could also occur due to side effects of drugs such as barbiturates or even benzodiazepines, which requires giving up these drugs to stop further memory loss.

Another factor that plays a part in inducing memory loss is Alzheimer’s disease and in fact this disease is a major cause of memory loss, and it is characterized by much loss of memory though in different degrees, which of course depends on the stage of the disease. It has been found that in the initial stages of Alzheimer’s disease, there is frequent loss of memory and towards the end; it even becomes difficult for the patient to remember the names of their own family members.

Aging too is an important reason why persons suffer from memory loss, though according to recent studies, it was found that people as old as ninety and beyond were not greatly bothered by memory loss, and even that with age, mental processes could in fact improve. If a person is an alcoholic, it could lead to memory loss since the alcohol will destroy nerves and even otherwise, alcohol is bad for the nervous system and it will adversely affect the mental processes; besides the memory, and to not lose your memory in this way, obviously, you will need to consume little or no alcohol.

Memory loss also comes about due to many other reasons including seizures, strokes, injuries to the head, brain tumors and also infections in the brain, and to determine whether you have memory loss, it may require undergoing temporal brain surgery. No doubt, there are many causes of memory loss that are preventable, though others will occur in any case, and what causes your memory loss will ultimately determine the speed at which you suffer from this condition. To treat the condition, it may be a good idea to consume ginkgo biloba, and there are other drugs available in the market as well to help your memory.

QUOTE: Hatred never ceases by Hatred but by Love is Healed. This is the Ancient and Eternal law. Dhammapada

In the begining the God and godess held an election who would be best suited to rule the Universe.

The first Candidate was Agnidevaputra, the God of Fire. “I am the strongest”, he said, so I shall rule.

Witness my power. Then, a he begin to chant in a loud voice, ahuge fire rose up from the centre of the Universe and began to burn everywhere.

The other Gods and Godess trembled with fear and they all raised their hands to elect Agnidevaputra except Valahakedeputra the God of Water.

Valahakedeputra said, “I can control fire”. And immediately, he created a huge deluge to extinguish the fire.

As the water rose higher and higher, all the other God and Godess raised their hands to vote for him except Saradadevi. the Godess of Art and Wisdom.

Saradadevi said, fire and water can frighten and kill people but I give birth to beauty. When I begin to dance you will relax and completely forget Fire and Water.

Saradadevi then dance and sing and all the God and Godess became entranced. Instead of drinking water through their mouth,they begin pouring wine into their ears, eyes and nose.

Awed by Saradadevi power the God and Godess raised their hansd to vote except Gandharva, the God of Celestial Music.

Gandharva said “Woman can overcome Man, but Man can also overcome Woman”. Then he begin to play his Heavenly guitar and sing, all the God and Godess swooned as the music flowed through the hall.

As if in a stupor, they all raised their hands, except Santidevaputra, the God of Peace, Mindfulness and clear Comprehension.

Santidavaputra said, “I am the God of Peace. I always practice mindfulness and clear comprehension. Whether all vote for me or no, I rule Myself.

To rule the Universe, you must first rule Yourself. To rule Yourself, you must be able to rule your own mind.

To rule your mind, you must practice mindfulness and clear comprehension. Immediately all the God and Godess recognized Santidevaputra’s strength and elected him unanimously. They understand and realized that Peace is the strongest force of the world.

Be mindfulness to live happily and peacefully.

The true 8th and 9th chakras are the shoulder chakras. Opening these will align the soul and drastically open energy pathways to the palm chakras and greatly empowering them.

To open your shoulder chakras, all you need to do is to visualize them as in the illustration at the bottom. Focus and meditate on them for a few minutes. A feeling of aching, or pressure is a positive sign you were successful in opening them. This feeling can extend to your arms and can feel sort of like they are falling asleep.

Now, align your chakras. The correct alignment of the chakras is in the shape of an equal armed cross. Correctly aligning the chakras will drastically increase your power.

1. Begin with the base chakra and turn the cone so the point is upwards. I know those who have followed the program so far have done these steps but i have added these for the people who wish to browse.

2. Do the same with the sacral and solar chakras (2nd and 3rd).

3. Focus your attention on your crown chakra and turn the point down.

4. Do the same with your sixth and throat chakras.

5. Now, focus on your heart chakra and visualize two points coming together and intersecting as shown I the illustration above.

6. Finish by again focusing on your shoulder chakras and visualize them pointing inward.

Opening the 10th and 11th Temple Chakras

The 10th and 11th temple chakras are located right behind the temples, as shown at tyhe bottom, a bit forward from the tip of the ear, and are extensions of the 6th chakra.

To open these chakras, just turn your attention to each one and visualize it point facing in. Then do the same on the other side. A weird feeling of aching, heaviness, pressure, or aching is a positive sign you have correctly located and opened them. The temple chakras are extensions of the sixth chakra.

If you are having trouble with this, Just gently place some pressure with your fingers on these points. Take your fingers away and you will be able to focus on the correct points.

Opening the 12th and 13th Chakras

The hip chakras are the same on each side and at the center of the hip, standing sideways, As in pictures below.

To open these chakras, Go into a meditation, then just turn your attention to each one and visualize it point facing in. Then do the same on the other side.

A weird feeling of aching, heaviness, or pressure, is a positive sign you have correctly located and opened them. The hip chakras are extensions of the base chakra, but like the shoulder chakras in proximity to the heart, they are located a bit higher.

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